THOUGHT OF THE DAY

Anger

When some one is angry with you ,he or she uses different methods to irritate you.
For example
 You are ignored and insulted again and again.
They don't care your presence. They follow "who cares!!" method
You are realised as you have done some thing very wrong with them and you are the worst person in the universe and you always do bad with them. and they are innocent in each and every matter. they forget all the good you had done in their bad times, your  love and your helping hand when they were in pain, they were alone .They do all this just to tease you.
They praise others whom they don't like just to let you down they pretend as they are very happy with them.
This gives them relief from their mental pain. while doing this they notice you from the corner of the eyes that whether it( their behavior) is affecting you or not. they talk in such a way as they are talking with others but pointing you. It is felt that they hate you. But truth is entirely different it is almost opposite. They don't apologize, but pressurise you to do the same .They love you. Your presence gives them relief but your not talking with them gives them the pain.   It is felt that it is temporary phase of behavior. This situation brings a turn in relationship. Generally this situation continue not for long. Some times it takes one or two minutes, one or two hours and ends happily.there are plenty of people willing to do that with you. don't be too hard on your self,just learn to forgive All the situations teach you lesson.Every mistake means you are trying. touch your heart and nourish your soul
 Surround yourself with people who make you hungry for life. Love yourself and be proud of every thing that you do.
Every mistake means you are trying,Within you is the power to rise above any situation or struggle and transform into the Brightest, Strongest version of you ever.
You don’t need anyone’s affection or approval in order to be good enough. When someone rejects or abandons or judges you, it isn’t actually about you. It’s about them and their own insecurities, limitations, and needs, and you don’t have to internalize that. Your worth isn’t contingent upon other people’s acceptance of you — it’s something inherent. You exist, and therefore, you matter. You’re allowed to voice your thoughts and feelings. You’re allowed to assert your needs and take up space. You’re allowed to hold onto the truth that who you are is exactly enough. And you’re allowed to remove anyone from your life who makes you feel otherwise.


.Don't be too hard on yourself. There are plenty of people willing to do that for you. Love yourself and be proud of everything that you do. Even mistakes mean you're trying. Surround yourself with people who make you hungry for life
The pages of yesterday  cann't be revised but the pages of tomorrow are blank and you hold the pen . Make it an inspiring story.              Within you is the power to rise above
any situation or struggle and transform into the Brightest, Strongest version of you ever.
Not everything is supposed to become something beautiful and long-lasting. Sometimes people come into your life to show you what is right and what is wrong, to show you who you can be, to teach you to love yourself, to make you feel better for a little while, or to just be someone to walk with at night and spill your life to. Not everyone is going to stay forever, and we still have to keep on going and thank them for what they’ve given us.
I've learned ... that no matter how much I care, some people just don't care back. I've Learned ... that you cannot make someone love you.
All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them. I've learned ... that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them. I've learned ... that your family won't always be there for you. It may seem funny, but people you aren't related to can take care of you and love you and teach you to trust people again. Families aren't biological. I've learned ... that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it

Don’t be afraid to get back up – to try again, to love again, to live again, and to dream again.

Don’t let a hard lesson harden your heart.

Life’s best lessons are often learned at the worst times and from the worst mistakes.

 There will be times when it seems like everything that could possibly go wrong is going wrong. And you might feel like you will be stuck in this rut forever, but you won’t.

When you feel like quitting, remember that sometimes things have to go very wrong before they can be right.


Sometimes you have to go through the worst, to arrive at your best.

In your lifetime you will find and meet one person who will love you more than anybody you have ever known and will know. They will love you with every bit of energy and soul. They will sacrifice, surrender and give so much that it scares you. Someday you’ll know who that is. Sometimes people realize who it was.
A monk decides to meditate alone, away from his monastery. He takes his boat out to the middle of the lake, moors it there, closes his eyes and begins his meditation.
After a few hours of undisturbed silence, he suddenly feels the bump of another boat colliding with his own. With his eyes still closed, he senses his anger rising, and by the time he opens his eyes, he is ready to scream at the boatman who dared disturb his meditation.
But when he opens his eyes, he sees it’s an empty boat that had probably got untethered and floated to the middle of the lake.
At that moment, the monk achieves self-realization, and understands that the anger is within him; it merely needs the bump of an external object to provoke it out of him.
From then on, whenever he comes across someone who irritates him or provokes him to anger, he reminds himself, “The other person is merely an empty boat. The anger is within me.”
Some useful timeless tips
1. Throw out nonessential numbers. This includes age, weight and height. Let the doctors worry about them. That is why you pay 'them'
2. Keep only cheerful friends. The grouches pull you down.
3. Keep learning. Learn more about the computer, crafts, gardening, whatever.. Never let the brain idle. 'An idle mind is the devil's workshop.' And the devil's name is Alzheimer's.
4. Enjoy the simple things.
5.. Laugh often, long and loud. Laugh until you gasp for breath.
6. The tears happen. Endure, grieve, and move on. The only person, who is with us our entire life, is ourselves. Be ALIVE while you are alive.
7. Surround yourself with what you love , whether it's family, pets, keepsakes, music, plants, hobbies, whatever. Your home is your refuge.
8. Cherish your health: If it is good, preserve it. If it is unstable, improve it. If it is beyond what you can improve, get help.
9. Don't take guilt trips. Take a trip to the mall, even to the next county; to a foreign country but NOT to where the guilt is.
10. Tell the people you love that you love them, at every opportunity.
AND ALWAYS REMEMBER :Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.
We all need to live life to its fullest each day, Worry about nothing, pray about everything!!!

10 Valuable Life Lessons You Learnt While Growing Up Under A Working Mom

Having grown up under a working mother myself, I have learned a little bit more than just dealing with things. I have learned patience, the true definition of independence and how to safeguard it, and the importance of being respectful. But that’s not all.

Following are some of the many things that only those who had a working mom while growing up will relate to.

1. You learned the value of staying disciplined like no one else

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You never asked for ‘2 more minutes’ when she woke you up in the morning for school. You always greeted guests with a respectful ‘namaste’ and never back talked. Yes, good manners are innate in you. So much so, that the words ‘sorry’, ‘thank you’ and ‘can I’ are always resting on the tip of your tongue, ready to tumble out, the moment someone does the slightest of favour for you.

2. You were always independent at heart

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You ironed your school dress by yourself, did your homework by yourself, and had independent opinions.

3. You know the importance of family

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You made the most of the little time that you got to spend with each other. It was those little times that made for memorable moments. And it was those memorable moments that kept your love in the family strongly intact.

4. You had no other option but to be tough

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So you fell sick in school and they sent you back to home. Your mom spoke to you on the phone to say, “It will be fine and I will be home soon.” Meanwhile, you took care of yourself, on that day, and on many other days.

School days were always hard. One time they pestered you to the extent that it broke you down. But she could not show up to sort your issues. So you solved the issue by yourself, on that day, and on many other days.

But do you regret it now? You have grown up a tough person. You can handle the worst of problems without needing your mom’s help.

Now, you save her help only when it comes to oiling hair.

5. She taught you to fight, in just the right manner

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For you, being a rebel was not about wearing the virtual armor that automatically deflected the stones that were thrown at you. It was about finding reasons and reacting accordingly.

She taught you to speak up when it was not your fault. She taught you to accept and learn lessons when It Was your fault. She explained that in order to be tough, you never have to be harsh. She urged you to raise voice for whosoever or whatever demands it. But, also to be nice everywhere else.

It was something she practiced very well at her workplace and passed on the wisdom to us.

6. She made you fix your mistakes by yourself

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She never stood by you when you made blunders. She made you repent and learn and improve, all by yourself. And this practice of blundering-learning-improving helped you develop a clear view of the right and the wrong.

7. You learned to be responsible

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Your mom held the responsibility of two jobs. The job that she worked for strangers facilitated her second job of putting the food on the table for the family. And mothers are humble. They will never let you acknowledge the hard work with which they raised you.

But, making your favourite kadhi-chawal while your dirty clothes happily spun in the washing machine and doing all this while pleading you to quickly change, is quite a task that deserves applause. And more so because she multi-tasked with absolute precision. Rice never burnt (okay most times at least), you never wore dirty clothes to school, and you always quickly (after a lot of yellings that is) changed!

And seeing her manage double life so smoothly made you grow into a responsible person. Now don’t you hate it when you get late from home to work and from work to home? Don’t you hate it when your friends borrow money and never return? Don’t you hate it when work does not get finished? Don’t you cry a little INSIDE when you lose your belongings?

Yes, you do!

8. You feel very strongly about gender equality

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Growing up under the shade of a working mom, you could never really understand the whole deal about women being inferior to men, or women hating men. The outside world said it a lot, but our moms juggling double lives and our fathers supporting them in every which way they could; made us believe in gender equality.

9. You gained a better perspective of the ills that continue to thrive in society

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They told your mother that she did a mistake by working when you were a kid. But you know your mom more than they ever did. She is a super mom who followed her heart and did what she wanted to. But what she never did was compromise on her love and attention for you irrespective of how much insane her work drove her. She was always interested in your report cards, she was always interested in knowing what’s going on in your life. She was (and is) always there for you.

Thanks to your mom, now you know reaching for stars is one’s personal wish. You also know about the importance of hitting the success mark without leaving your close ones behind. And about the society passing judgments, you never give a tiny rat’s ass.

10. She is your inspiration

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If you are a working person now, you will know this. It is not easy sitting through the office yet sustaining the sanity of mind. But she did. She was an iron lady who inculcated all the things mentioned above (and many more) in you while battling work stress all the time. And today, you are proud of her. And not because she managed to stuff poha in your tiffin box while giving Mrs. Gomes directions to the Goddamn file in her office, on the phone. But because, despite all her crazy work-home lifestyle, she managed to raise you right!

It goes unsaid that life of a working mother is no cakewalk but definitely, praiseworthy. She was not always there to give you shade when the Sun scorched you, she was not always there to hold your bicycle from behind when you first learned to balance, but she was there…

…To let the Sun kiss you and teach you, it is okay to suffer once in a while because only then will you learn to carry an umbrella;

To let you fall because how else would you have learned to get back up and ride away, all on your own and without support.

She was there to make sure that’s how you grow! And now you are a perfect mini version of her.

Living in the present s the happiest way of living

Almost no adage or piece of wisdom is as pervasive and repetitive in our modern world as the advice to “Live in the now.”  With our ever-increasing understanding of the illusory nature of time, we gain more and more insight into the concept that whether we are lingering in the past or harboring anxiety about the future, either way we are living in illusion because the past and future don’t really exist.  Aristotle called happiness, “the chief good, the end towards which all other things aim.”  Certainly wallowing in past regrets or nostalgia can be a source of sorrow and festering in anxiety about what the future holds can be a source of stress and worry, but is there any direct provable correlation between our tendency to focus outside the present moment and our level of happiness in life?  The answer is surprisingly, yes. In a 2010 study conducted by Harvard-trained psychologist Matthew Killingsworth, data collected from over 15,000 participants showed a clear connection between an individual's tendency to ‘mind-wander’ and their level of happiness. In order to conduct his research, Killingsworth created a program at trackyourhappiness.org which provided an iPhone app usable from the mobile devices of participants.  Several times throughout the day, the app would send users prompts to answer questions about their moment-to-moment experiences and activities.  The app collected over 650,000 real time reports. The participants represented a diverse range of ages, income levels, educational backgrounds, marital status’, occupations, and involved participants from more than 80 countries.  Participants were repeatedly asked to answer how they were currently feeling on a scale from very bad to very good, what they were currently doing, from a list of 22 different activities, and whether they were solely focused on the task at hand or if their mind was wandering elsewhere.

The results and analysis of the data collected resulted in a 2010 Science paper co-authored by Killingsworth and psychology professor Daniel Gilbert called “A Wandering Mind is an Unhappy Mind.”  According the study people were less happy across the board if they were mind wandering regardless of whether or not they reported enjoying the task at hand.  In other words, even if their current task was an unenjoyable one according to them- such as an activity rated low in enjoyment like commuting to work, participants still reported being happier while focusing in the moment rather than mind wandering to other places.  “As it turns out people are substantially less happy when their minds are wandering than when they’re not,” said Killingsworth in a presentation for TedxCambridge.   The study also documented whether the things being pondered while mind-wandering were negative, neutral, or positive, and found that even when participants reported mind-wandering to pleasant ideas, they were still less happy than remaining present in the moment.

Be Happy

Be Happy

The Key to Manifesting your goals is to be in Gratitude and Appreciation at all times, which brings Happiness. As the saying goes :

There is no way to Happiness; Happiness is the way.

Thinking that you will be happy once you achieve the goal unfortunately doesn't work. The key is to BE HAPPY first and then achieve the Goal. When you are happy, the Law of Vibration works beautifully and effortlessly. If we are unhappy, we keep giving confusing signals to the Universe (Genie, Subconscious). On one moment, we are asking for our Goals, on the very next moment, we are unhappy. The Universe is confused as to what you want: the goal or unhappiness? Be happy, do your daily rituals and see the magic happen. Unleash the Power Within in the truest sense. One of easiest ways to be Happy and be in the right vibration is to be in Gratitude and Appreciation at all times.

Affirmations for the day:

I am so happy and grateful to GOD for everything he has given me. I am always happy as I work towards my goals and I trust that the goal is on the way and it will come at any moment. I appreciate everything that is around me and see the beauty .