Thursday, November 26, 2015



When some one is angry with you ,he or she uses different methods to irritate you.
For example
 You are ignored and insulted again and again.
They don't care your presence. They follow "who cares!!" method
You are realised as you have done some thing very wrong with them and you are the worst person in the universe and you always do bad with them. and they are innocent in each and every matter. they forget all the good you had done in their bad times, your  love and your helping hand when they were in pain, they were alone .They do all this just to tease you.
They praise others whom they don't like just to let you down they pretend as they are very happy with them.
This gives them relief from their mental pain. while doing this they notice you from the corner of the eyes that whether it( their behavior) is affecting you or not. they talk in such a way as they are talking with others but pointing you. It is felt that they hate you. But truth is entirely different it is almost opposite. They don't apologize, but pressurise you to do the same .They love you. Your presence gives them relief but your not talking with them gives them the pain.   It is felt that it is temporary phase of behavior. This situation brings a turn in relationship. Generally this situation continue not for long. Some times it takes one or two minutes, one or two hours and ends happily.there are plenty of people willing to do that with you. don't be too hard on your self,just learn to forgive All the situations teach you lesson.Every mistake means you are trying. touch your heart and nourish your soul
 Surround yourself with people who make you hungry for life. Love yourself and be proud of every thing that you do.
Every mistake means you are trying,Within you is the power to rise above any situation or struggle and transform into the Brightest, Strongest version of you ever.
You don’t need anyone’s affection or approval in order to be good enough. When someone rejects or abandons or judges you, it isn’t actually about you. It’s about them and their own insecurities, limitations, and needs, and you don’t have to internalize that. Your worth isn’t contingent upon other people’s acceptance of you — it’s something inherent. You exist, and therefore, you matter. You’re allowed to voice your thoughts and feelings. You’re allowed to assert your needs and take up space. You’re allowed to hold onto the truth that who you are is exactly enough. And you’re allowed to remove anyone from your life who makes you feel otherwise.

.Don't be too hard on yourself. There are plenty of people willing to do that for you. Love yourself and be proud of everything that you do. Even mistakes mean you're trying. Surround yourself with people who make you hungry for life
The pages of yesterday  cann't be revised but the pages of tomorrow are blank and you hold the pen . Make it an inspiring story.              Within you is the power to rise above
any situation or struggle and transform into the Brightest, Strongest version of you ever.
Not everything is supposed to become something beautiful and long-lasting. Sometimes people come into your life to show you what is right and what is wrong, to show you who you can be, to teach you to love yourself, to make you feel better for a little while, or to just be someone to walk with at night and spill your life to. Not everyone is going to stay forever, and we still have to keep on going and thank them for what they’ve given us.
I've learned ... that no matter how much I care, some people just don't care back. I've Learned ... that you cannot make someone love you.
All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them. I've learned ... that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them. I've learned ... that your family won't always be there for you. It may seem funny, but people you aren't related to can take care of you and love you and teach you to trust people again. Families aren't biological. I've learned ... that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it

Don’t be afraid to get back up – to try again, to love again, to live again, and to dream again.

Don’t let a hard lesson harden your heart.

Life’s best lessons are often learned at the worst times and from the worst mistakes.

 There will be times when it seems like everything that could possibly go wrong is going wrong. And you might feel like you will be stuck in this rut forever, but you won’t.

When you feel like quitting, remember that sometimes things have to go very wrong before they can be right.

Sometimes you have to go through the worst, to arrive at your best.

In your lifetime you will find and meet one person who will love you more than anybody you have ever known and will know. They will love you with every bit of energy and soul. They will sacrifice, surrender and give so much that it scares you. Someday you’ll know who that is. Sometimes people realize who it was.
A monk decides to meditate alone, away from his monastery. He takes his boat out to the middle of the lake, moors it there, closes his eyes and begins his meditation.
After a few hours of undisturbed silence, he suddenly feels the bump of another boat colliding with his own. With his eyes still closed, he senses his anger rising, and by the time he opens his eyes, he is ready to scream at the boatman who dared disturb his meditation.
But when he opens his eyes, he sees it’s an empty boat that had probably got untethered and floated to the middle of the lake.
At that moment, the monk achieves self-realization, and understands that the anger is within him; it merely needs the bump of an external object to provoke it out of him.
From then on, whenever he comes across someone who irritates him or provokes him to anger, he reminds himself, “The other person is merely an empty boat. The anger is within me.”
Some useful timeless tips
1. Throw out nonessential numbers. This includes age, weight and height. Let the doctors worry about them. That is why you pay 'them'
2. Keep only cheerful friends. The grouches pull you down.
3. Keep learning. Learn more about the computer, crafts, gardening, whatever.. Never let the brain idle. 'An idle mind is the devil's workshop.' And the devil's name is Alzheimer's.
4. Enjoy the simple things.
5.. Laugh often, long and loud. Laugh until you gasp for breath.
6. The tears happen. Endure, grieve, and move on. The only person, who is with us our entire life, is ourselves. Be ALIVE while you are alive.
7. Surround yourself with what you love , whether it's family, pets, keepsakes, music, plants, hobbies, whatever. Your home is your refuge.
8. Cherish your health: If it is good, preserve it. If it is unstable, improve it. If it is beyond what you can improve, get help.
9. Don't take guilt trips. Take a trip to the mall, even to the next county; to a foreign country but NOT to where the guilt is.
10. Tell the people you love that you love them, at every opportunity.
AND ALWAYS REMEMBER :Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.
We all need to live life to its fullest each day, Worry about nothing, pray about everything!!!


  1. 冬天離開,夏天就不遠了....