Sunday, January 23, 2011

What makes a person happy?

If you believe it is money, health, travel or a good figure, then you’re wrong. You can have all the wealth in the world and still be unhappy.  Different people get happiness in different ways. For some, it comes from having a fulfilling job or a satisfying relationship. For others, it could be the ability to deal with life’s challenges with equanimity. Whatever the source, one thing is certain: happiness is an attitude. It is the mindset that enables you to interpret things in a positive way. It is that particular feeling which puts a spring in your step and a smile on your face, for no apparent reason.
If you want to feel rich, just count all the things you have that money can't buy. There is tremendous happiness in making others happy, despite our own situations. Shared grief is half the sorrow, but happiness when shared, is doubled.
"Today is a gift, that's why it is called the present."
People will forget what you said... People will forget what you did... But people will never forget how you made them feel...

He is always in a good mood and always has something positive to say.  When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, "If I were any better, I would be twins!"  He was a natural motivator. If an employee was having a bad day, John was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.
Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up and asked him, "I don't get it! You can't be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?"
He replied, "Each morning I wake up and say to myself, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or ... you can choose to be in a bad mood. I choose to be in a good mood." Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or...I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it. Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or... I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life.
"Yeah, right, it's not that easy," I protested.
"Yes, it is," he said. "Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people affect your mood. You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. The bottom line: It's your choice how you live your life" I reflected on what he said. Soon hereafter, I left the Tower Industry to start my own business. We lost touch, but I often thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it.
Several years later, I heard that he was involved in a serious accident, falling some 60 feet from a communications tower. After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, he was released from the hospital with rods placed in his back. I saw him about six months after the accident.
When I asked him how he was, he replied, "If I were any better, I'd be twins Wanna see my scars?"

Saturday, January 22, 2011

Value of Discipline in life

Discipline means the willing submission of a person to rules, regulations and instructions to someone recognized by society. It is a willing and polite discharge of one's duty towards others in society. Discipline must be observed by everyone of us in all walks of life. One should be disciplined whether at home, in school on the play ground, on duty, in the office or in the army. Discipline is a virtue. It provides mental strength to discriminate good from the bad and to defend the right against wrong.

The strength of a nation lies in discipline. No nation can progress unless its citizens are disciplined. Citizens of a disciplined nation work in a spirit of co-operation and unity. Whenever a country is suffering from internal strife with no unity and moral values among the citizens, it loses self confidence and an opportunist neighbour often takes the advantage of the situation. That's why Chanakya once said, "United we stand, divided we fall."

Some people misunderstand the meaning of discipline. They say that discipline leads to blind submission to authority and it negates our independent freedom. This is a misconceived notion and a wrong interpretation of 'discipline'. Discipline doesn't mean slavery. A disciplined person has full freedom but the freedom of a disciplined is such, it neither disturbs the society nor interferes with other's freedom. The word discipline comes from the word 'disciple'. A disciple is one who learns and is constantly aware of his learning. For example, A trainee to a carpenter, learns from a master carpenter how to keep tools clean, how to use tools correctly. If he puts this learning into application, in this particular aspect he is disciplined. If a person is disciplined in a particular aspect, it is very easy to spread the essence of this discipline to the other areas of his life. The importance of discipline is well recognized in every aspect of life.

Nature is the best mirror of perfect discipline to all of us. The earth, the sun, the moon and other planets are governed by certain laws to maintain perfect harmony and beauty. Any deviation from these set rules, will spell an utter disaster in nature.

Discipline is the backbone of the nation. Only those nations where people have a sense of discipline can prosper in all fields. They even rule other nations. Discipline is a valuable asset at all levels of the society. A family having no discipline becomes a den of quarrels and is ultimately divided. An educational institution having no discipline doesn't impart value based education. That is what one can see in some of the states in India. To study or not to study, to teach or not to teach, to attend the classes or not to attend the classes - all is left to the sweet wishes of the students and teachers. Thus the standard of education has gone to dogs. That is why parents want to educate their children in Missionary schools and Public schools.

Discipline should be the first criterion of the family. Parents must bring up their children in congenial disciplined atmosphere and teach the right values to transform them into balanced adults. Therefore, they can give their best to the country as disciplined citizens.

Discipline is necessary for both the teacher and the taught. A good teacher has a great responsibility of keeping a high image of his personality in the society. He can't do it unless he maintains an intellectual and more discipline of a high order. No student will obey and respect an indisciplined teacher, however high may be his knowledge.

Similarly only a serious and self disciplined student achieves something worth in the life. Indisciplined students just wander here and there, waste away their precious time and energy in useless activities and later on repent in life. They soon learnt that there is no shortcut to success and it is only through consistent hard work and self discipline that they can achieve their objective in life.

Friday, January 21, 2011

Why work hard, if there are shortcuts?

The good thing about working hard is, that for people who are driven towards their goal can enjoy their hard work and consequently, the work does not seem unduly grueling to them. When you begin to work hard towards achieving success, make sure to work smartly too. An intelligent working technique, along with relentless effort will go a long way in helping you achieve the success that you always desired.
Nothing in this world comes easily, least of all, success. Take the example of Abraham Lincoln who worked hard, without ever getting disappointed of his countless failures, from the age of 21 till the age of 52, when he went on to become the President of the US. Again, it took Noah Webster 36 years to compile his Webster's Dictionary. Where would we be today if he had not put in those countless hours of hard work behind his grand contribution to the English language?
Therefore, you need to remember that there are no short cuts to success. Hard work, complimented with an intense desire to struggle and to achieve success is the only sure shot way of reaching success that you have always wanted

Wednesday, January 19, 2011

Difference between morals and ethics.

"The difference between ethics and morals can seem somewhat arbitrary to many, but there is a basic, albeit subtle, difference. Morals define personal character, while ethics stress a social system in which those morals are applied. In other words, ethics point to standards or codes of behavior expected by the group to which the individual belongs. This could be national ethics, social ethics, company ethics, professional ethics, or even family ethics. So while a person's moral code is usually unchanging, the ethics he or she practices can be other-dependent.
When considering the difference between ethics and morals, it may be helpful to consider a criminal defense lawyer. Though the lawyer's personal moral code likely finds murder immoral and reprehensible, ethics demand the accused client be defended as vigorously as possible, even when the lawyer knows the party is guilty, even at the expense of setting him free possibly to murder again. Legal ethics must override personal morals for the greater good of upholding a justice system in which the accused are given a fair trial and the prosecution must prove guilt beyond a reasonable doubt."

The Role Of A Teacher

The Role Of A Teacher

The role of a teacher in today’s world is a complex and diverse one.  It is to provide intellectual and social development, to have integrity, to be honest and to always provide appropriate conduct in the classroom and the community.

In addition to these attributes, the role of a teacher is to acquire professionalism and ethics and abide by their own moral code and that of their school, while maintaining a commitment to confidentiality between students, colleagues and the community.

A very prominent role of a successful teacher is to plan and implement learning activities that will benefit the intellectual needs of all students. Some guidelines for the teacher to teach the curriculum would be to have suitable and appropriate content and process in the classroom, to have resources which complement the content areas, to make the curriculum appealing to the imagination and to hold children’s interest, and the structure of a discipline. Taking into consideration that there may be many different learning abilities,
styles and behaviours of students in the one classroom. When a teacher knows their students well they will understand their capabilities, strengths and weaknesses and to acknowledge and support those needs.

A modern day teacher should be at the forefront of new technologies and have a continual appreciation for learning.  Professional development is the process by which teachers achieve higher professional competence and expand their understanding of self, role, context and career.

The following is an additional check list of guidelines for an effective educator and emphasizes the role of the teacher in the classroom today:

Listening – students need to be acknowledged as valuable contributors, this is a very positive experience for a student.

Clarifying – ensure that instructions are understood.

Encouraging – reassurance to the student that you understand their message.